YouthStar For Teens
As a teenager, you are experiencing many exciting things for the first time: A first date, a first car, the first day of high school, a first kiss and sometimes a first sexual experience, etc. These, along with many other experiences, are exciting and memorable and can shape your future. There is something to learn from all these experiences. Among the most impactful things you will experience as a teenager are the effects that hormones and sex have on your mind, body and spirit. As a teen, sexuality and sex are among the things at the forefront of everyday living. However, pornography can distort what has been natural and good and transform sexual health into sexual compulsive behaviors (sexual acts that become uncontrollable like continual masturbation and looking at porn) can become a problem and trap the unsuspecting into addiction.
Questions that may apply to you:
- Are you looking at inappropriate material on the computer or on your phone that you know you shouldn’t?
- Are you masturbating a lot (a lot is more than 2 or 3 times per week)?
- Do you find yourself constantly thinking about sex and looking for the next opportunity to look at porn?
- Have your parents found internet searches on the computer about sex that you have denied were yours?
- Have you had a sexual encounter that you have questions about but have no where to turn?
- You can’t talk to your parents or any adults about sex?
- Do you feel bad about sexual thoughts or sexual things you have done?
- You know you have a problem looking at too much pornography and want help.
Are you concerned that your teen might have a problem with pornography or other sexual compulsive behaviors? Here are some indicators that your teen might have a problem:
- Severe mood swings
- Become reclusive and secretive
- Extreme amount of time at the computer and alone
- Hyper-sensitivety to discussions about sex
- You’ve found pornographic bookmarks and/or inappropriate sites in the history of your web browser
- History of inappropriate behavior with social media – Facebook, Instagram, etc.
Many of these behaviors can be normal for teens and may not be specific signs that they are struggling with possible sexual addiction problems. However, with the average exposure to explicit materials on the internet of 9 years of age, and because of the vulnerability of the teenage mind and hormones, your hunch that your teen may be experiencing problematic sexual behaviors is probably accurate!