LifeSTAR of Denver

Relief is here. LifeSTAR is a program that can restore, hope, understanding, with tools for the person and their partner struggling and affected by the plague of pornography and the impact that comes from a growing sexualized world. Research indicates that desired results for long-term behavioral change require the creation of “new pathway structuring” in the brain. This type of change makes for lasting recovery and a long-term healthy lifestyle.

LifeSTAR of Denver provides those struggling with sex related addictions and their partners with a safe and confidential program that instills hope and understanding to help overcome a cunning adversary. LifeSTAR of Denver opened its doors in 2007 and since that time has helped hundreds of individuals and couples in the Denver area and thousands throughout the network, helping them navigate through the devastating impact of betrayal. Sex addiction can be a destructive force for the individual and their partner. Addiction can often lead to loss of loving relationships, loss of employment and strip one of integrity, health and wellness. Most experts agree that sex addiction is difficult to overcome by yourself. The addiction thrives in isolation and requires a regimented treatment program to initiate healing. Combined with willingness and a desire to get well, counseling, a 12-step program and a group setting like LifeSTAR, can enhance the potential for a return to healthy living. The LifeSTAR methodology has been crafted to produce strength and life solutions for the partner and the addict.

Can LifeSTAR work for me?
A program is only as good as the commitment to healthy living.

“LifeSTAR came to me at a time when my life had just totally collapsed around me. The program was a lifesaver for my wife and me, as well as my children. The bonds I formed with my small group of other men will last forever and was enough to break the bonds of my addiction.”
—Grateful addict in recovery, Littleton, CO

How long will it take to get better?
Getting better starts immediately for the individual and the partner. However, keep in mind the addiction developed under years of behavior patterns and the solution will require equal determination to replace negative behavior with a renewed commitment to activities that replace past behavior with new measures that lead to health and wellness. You provide the effort and LifeSTAR will provide the tools.

How about my companion?
Too often, the partner is left to face the results of the addiction on their own. LifeSTAR has an in-depth program for the partner. The partner has lived under the specter of addiction unknowingly. LifeSTAR is designed to help the partner of a sex addict begin to cope with the hurt and confusion known only to the those living through infidelity and betrayal. Thankfully, the partner doesn’t need to face the reality of addiction alone but can be strengthened with a safe and compassionate group environment.


LifeStar of Denver seeks to inspire thriving relationships, and the passionate embrace of life through healing transformation.


  • Pre-assessment to determine the extent and nature of the addictive behaviors
  • Comprehensive workbook system
  • Recommended sobriety plan
  • Individual treatment
  • Group therapy
  • Appreciation for meditation


  • Structured spouse support during the recovery process
    – Workbook system
    – Individual treatment
    – Group support therapy


“I can’t even describe the horror & shock when my husband came to confess. I was crushed and hurt in every way a woman can be hurt. The pain of betrayal was beyond description and there was no easing, no subsiding of pain. I knew I needed help for myself in healing to not let this devastation consume my life.I found out about the LifeSTAR program and as I met with a LifeSTAR counselor she gave me hope, and also advised me to work through my healing, to be patient and work my own program. ‘She went on to say, the marriage doesn’t have to end at this point, give your self some time and make those life choices when you have more understanding and strength has returned.’ It would have been difficult for me to stay in the marriage had my husband not owned his recovery. Some days are harder than others but LifeSTAR gave me the tools to get my life back and for my husband and I to move forward.”
—Letting Go and Letting God, Denver, CO
“My husband and I were deep in the throes of pain and distrust when we were referred to Life Star. We have found light and hope through the Life Star program. There is so much more peace and happiness in our marriage as we have implemented the tools learned through this inspired program.”
—New beginnings, Denver, Colorado
“Against most measures, I was a successful business man and entrepreneur. Esteemed by peers and colleagues, I continued to find refuge in my career. I also had served in various leadership positions in my church over decades of service. Yet, I harbored a secret, a secret I had carried for my entire adult life. The secret I tried to keep to myself, finally, and now I can say thankfully, came to light. However, the humiliation, embarrassment and shame was more than I ever thought possible or that I could ever bear. I knew I had a problem, beyond just being immoral and a bad person. A loved one gave me a name and number to call. I still remember what I said with that first call to the LifeSTAR counselor, I was so broken hearted and through a rush of emotion I whispered, ‘I understand you’re in the business of saving lives?’ He said, “I think we can help.” And with that my journey back to living a healthy life began.”
—Another 24 hours, Lakewood, CO


LifeSTAR Frequently Asked Questions

1. How is the LifeSTAR program different from 12-step recovery groups, counseling, or other types of group therapy?
The LifeSTAR program is a phased program that is designed to take the participants on a gentle and structured path through recovery. It shares many of the same features of 12-step programs, counseling, and group therapy such as meeting in a group setting, completing workbooks, receiving education, and processing personal experiences. Think of the LifeSTAR program as a comprehensive recovery approach that includes all of the best features of these three approaches packaged in one program.

2. Why should a couple be involved in treatment together? What can I expect by involving my spouse?
Many partners question why they would need to attend if they don’t have the addiction. Research and experience show that when a partner is included in early recovery work, the chance of saving the relationship greatly improve. As a result of being in a relationship with an individual struggling with an addiction, many partners feel isolated, confused, angry, and betrayed. The LifeSTAR program was designed to address the unique and sensitive needs of partners.

3. Do I really need to be in a group to overcome pornography or other sexually compulsive behaviors?
This is a common question, as many individuals who struggle with addiction would prefer to do their recovery work privately. We find that individuals who submit to the group process make changes more quickly and have longer-lasting results.


Steven D. Hess, Senior Licensed Clinician, Counselor, M.A., M.Ed., LPC

Stephen (Steve) Hess is a Licensed Professional Counselor holding an M.Ed., Degree from BYU in Counseling and Guidance and an M.A. in Community Counseling, Marriage and Family Track from UNCO. His experience includes 26 as an LDS Chaplain in the Air Force. He worked as a group living counselor, teacher, and behavioral therapist at Excelsior Youth Center for 7 years. He worked as a counselor for LDS Family Services before coming to LifeStar in February 2013.

“I consider my service with LifeSTAR a very vital, critically important but privileged calling. I see the value and worth in each of my clients even when they are unable to see for themselves.   My clients often feel judged, and diminished by themselves and others.  I remind them and help them understand who they are and what they have been given to become whole and healthy.   I strive to help them discover and rely on a power greater then themselves. I help create a safe environment without judgment.”

Reed Haight, M.A., Clinician

Reed is a Masters Level clinician working toward obtaining his LPC. A graduate with a BA from BYU-Idaho in psychology and a MA in Marriage and Family Therapy from Argosy University- Denver with additional courses in community mental health.  In addition to traditional talk therapy training Reed and graduate level coursework in Applied Behavioral Analysis and worked as a behavior specialist focusing on behavioral changes with high risk behaviors in children and adults.  

“I believe The LifeSTAR methodology helps clients reestablish vital connections that have been missing in their relationships due to inappropriate sexual thoughts, fantasies and behavior. I approach my work with compassion and a devotion to each of my clients. My philosophy is that working on behavioral changes should be seen not from only the behavior but worked on from a whole person approach. When there is imbalance in a persons life it will often affect many other areas. I feel that when you see and work with a client as a whole person, and not just behavior, the individual can find long lasting health and change.”

Executive Directors
Armando and Rena Martín bring there lifelong passion to help others and years of domestic and international business in the training and development industry to LifeSTAR of Denver.

Contact Armando to schedule a presentation, workshop or fireside for your organization, company or church to gain information and further insights on how individuals, executives and couples can protect themselves from pornography and inappropriate sexual behavior

Organizational and Corporate Solutions.

Sexual misbehavior not only impacts the home but is also becoming increasingly prevalent in various organizations like churches, schools, government offices and corporate America at high speed. It’s not just employees and students, but teachers, pastors and executive management that fall prey to inappropriate sexual tendencies, putting careers and members of the organization at risk. Executives are at risk with more and more time spent on the road. Church leaders and members risk growing shame and find it impossible to step forward and ask for help.

Call on the LifeSTAR team for lectures, speeches and corporate and individual coaching to help strengthen member and employee resolve to live free of the sexual ties that bind, and disrupt the trust and integrity of your organization. Contact us NOW for a customized program to help your church leadership and members as well as your organization or company./span>


There are three phases in LifeSTAR

  • Phase I kickoffs with a once a week meeting for six weeks (Couples and individuals)
  • Phase II is individual work over the course of a year with weekly sessions
  • Phase III continues the learning through weekly group and applying the learning from Phase I and II



    • Lakewood/Littleton – Phase I to begin September 2018

YouthStar For Teens

As a teenager, you are experiencing many exciting things for the first time: A first date, a first car, the first day of high school, a first kiss and sometimes a first sexual experience, etc. These, along with many other experiences, are exciting and memorable and can shape your future. There is something to learn from all these experiences. Among the most impactful things you will experience as a teenager are the effects that hormones and sex have on your mind, body and spirit.  As a teen, sexuality and sex are among the things at the forefront of everyday living. However, pornography can distort what has been natural and good and transform sexual health into sexual compulsive behaviors (sexual acts that become uncontrollable like continual masturbation and looking at porn) can become a problem and trap the unsuspecting into addiction.

Questions that may apply to you:

      • Are you looking at inappropriate material on the computer or on your phone that you know you shouldn’t?
      • Are you masturbating a lot (a lot is more than 2 or 3 times per week)?
      • Do you find yourself constantly thinking about sex and looking for the next opportunity to look at porn?
      • Have your parents found internet searches on the computer about sex that you have denied were yours?
      • Have you had a sexual encounter that you have questions about but have no where to turn?
      • You can’t talk to your parents or any adults about sex?
      • Do you feel bad about sexual thoughts or sexual things you have done?
      • You know you have a problem looking at too much pornography and want help.

For Parents

Are you concerned that your teen might have a problem with pornography or other sexual compulsive behaviors? Here are some indicators that your teen might have a problem:

      • Severe mood swings
      • Become reclusive and secretive
      • Extreme amount of time at the computer and alone
      • Hyper-sensitivety to discussions about sex
      • You’ve found pornographic bookmarks and/or inappropriate sites in the history of your web browser
      • History of inappropriate behavior with social media – Facebook, Instagram, etc.

Many of these behaviors can be normal for teens and may not be specific signs that they are struggling with possible sexual addiction problems.  However, with the average exposure to explicit materials on the internet of 9 years of age, and because of the vulnerability of the teenage mind and hormones, your hunch that your teen may be experiencing problematic sexual behaviors is probably accurate!


Make an Appointment

Armando L. Martín –
Address: 2504 S. Fenton Ln, Suite 123, Denver, CO 80227
Phone: 303.249.2039
Hours: M-F, 9AM – 5PM